The 28 Days of Christmas
Disclaimer: This post has nothing to do with a Christmas Countdown. I just think the title sounds like one of those cheesy made for tv Christmas movies I so fondly love to watch.
We have officially entered into the Christmas holiday season. For me, Christmas truly is the most wonderful time of the year. But, if I can be honest, since T'neil died, the holiday season isn't nearly as happy and Christmas isn't nearly as merry and bright.
Grief is real and it has affected me every day of my life since July 20, 2010. Most days I do a pretty good job of managing my grief. Then there are the days, the milestone dates like the day she was born, holidays and the day she died that do a not so excellent job of managing me. If you can identify with what I am saying, I invite you to keep reading.
I recently came across an internet article that details "64 Tips for Coping with Grief at the Holidays" from the website www.whatsyourgrief.com. You're welcome to visit the website and read the entire article, but I've decided to make things more convenient for us all by posting a couple of the tips each day from now until Christmas. Doing so will help aid in the digestion of what's being suggested in the tip and it will help prevent us from feeling more overwhelmed than we already are.
Tip # 1: "Acknowledge that the holidays will be different and they will be tough."
My mentor has a saying that "you can't change what you aren't willing to confront". We can not continue to ignore our grief and the challenges it presents for us. The moment my daughter died my life as I once knew it ceased to exist. Navigating this new life has not been easy and the holiday season causes extreme internal, emotional complications for me.
Whether your loss occurred 6 months or 20 years ago, there is no time better than the present to begin the necessary and important task of grief work.
We can't Be US Til FULL when unhealthy grief is illegally taking up residence in the areas of our hearts reserved for comfort, peace and joy.
God willing tune in tomorrow for another installment.